Venus Trapped in Mars

18 June 2013

Life is hard

A boy breaks your heart

Another boy breaks your heart

You have to break a boys heart

You lose a relative

You lose a parent

You lose a best friend

Someone else gets that promotion you wanted.

You feel so lonely. Like you will never find that person meant for you.

There was a car accident.

Cancer, heart disease, stroke, Alzheimer's takes over a loved one's body

Cancer, heart disease, stroke, Alzheimer's takes over your body

You gain weight. You gain more weight. All of a sudden you are 100 pounds more than you used to be and you can't stop eating, because it comforts you. 

You are faced with a choice to advance your career in a new state, but would have to leave all your family and friends behind to start this new life. 

You feel lonesome in a full house.

Debt consumes your life. You lie awake at night agonizing. 

Life leaves you feeling utterly lost. 

You hate your job. Everyday of work strips a layer of your being.

You are in a dead end relationship. But you are too scared to move on alone.

You have to say a final goodbye. Maybe it is to a friend moving away, or maybe to someone who has passed. 

Stress and pain are met every night with whisky and wine.

You have a secret tearing you up inside. Maybe you are a homosexual and you know your parents/friends will never accept you for you, or maybe you cheated on a loved one, but could never tell them. 

You realize you don't need someone anymore.

You realize someone doesn't need you anymore.

A son, husband, brother is fighting for our country overseas. You live in constant worry.

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We all have pain and suffering. There is no one who can say to me they haven't experienced at least one thing on this list. I am dealing with a few of these items. I cry, a lot. I say, "Why me? What did I do to deserve this?" 

You may have lost your mother, got dumped and lost a best friend all in one year. That doesn't mean what you are feeling is any greater pain or sorrow than someone who has never experienced a loss like you have. Maybe that same person has lost control of their weight. They feel up against a wall, horribly sad, self-conscience and deflated. 

Suffering is not a competition. 

I am not a saint. I am not even a good person in many aspects of the word. But one thing I don't think you will hear anyone say is that I am not kind. I try and put a smile on my face, everyday. Everyone is suffering in some aspect of the word. The least we can do is be kind to each other, support one another. 

Sometimes all I want is for someone to give me a hug and tell me that everything is going to be ok. Is life going to be ok? No, it will never be ok. There will always be new issues that arise. New challenges to face. Whether small or large, each of us will always be fighting a battle of some sort.

Let's make a pact, at least here in blog land, to say and do kind things, because we are all suffering and fighting our own battles, behind closed doors.

Hug someone today.
Hug your mother
Hug your brother
Hug your best friend
Hug your boyfriend or husband
Live alone? Hug your General. 






Venus Trapped

67 comments :

  1. This is a great post. Very honest and open and helpful for those of us currently identifying with suffering.

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  2. I absolutely love this! You are so great. Sending hugs your way!!

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  3. Loved your post. You are right everyone has their own struggles and we need to uplift one another rather than tear people down. Sending good vibes your way today :)

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  4. Great post! It's true, no ones problems are more valid than others. I wish more people would understand this. Very well said :) And I hope you can tackle whatever is bothering you. Sending you good Mcflurry vibes.

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  5. Love this so much!!--one of the reasons I love blogging is the community that I can now consider myself a part of.

    And, I'm so glad that our blogs are spaces for us to be real--thank you for being real!

    Emily
    www.beblessedyall.com

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  6. I love this. I needed to read this today. I am going to give my Walter lots of hugs today. I need it. He probably will love it.

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  7. I loved this post. I am definitely taking the time to hug EVERYONE today. I completely identified with a few things here, and I'm sure so many others can, too. Sending you smiles :)

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  8. I love this. SO much. We should always be nice to each other - suffering isn't a competition but neither is friendships. xoxo

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  9. Great Post! I needed to read this.

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  10. Hugs girl... this is a great post!

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  11. love this post, such a great reminder, it really isn't a competition which is a hard thing for people to understand.

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  12. Excellent post we all need to hear!

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  13. GREAT Post! A must read for all :)

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  14. love this post; so honest and raw.
    i hope whatever you're dealing with works out. hugs xoxoxox

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  15. My favorite post of yours. Hands down. You said it perfectly. :)

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  16. Lovely post. So agree that it's not a competition. For each of us, our own battle is still a battle.

    *Hugs your way.*

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  17. Very, very true. We're so quick to judge others before thinking about what they might be going through-- I know I do. Life sure isn't easy, but at least most of these things you listed get better in time. Hurt eases, and wounds close. Praying for you and whatever you're going through!

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  18. this is such an amazing post. One of my favs hand down, and I have a lot of favs. If you ever need to talk I'm always here for you. :)

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  19. I had never thought of how sometimes we want to turn suffering into a competition-- I know that I have thought to myself, "why is she feeling all sorry for herself, her life is no where near as hard as mine," which really is just a dumb sentiment to have. We will never really know how much another is suffering, and the best we can do as humans is to just be kind to others. Thanks for this post; it really made my morning!

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  20. this is nice and so true. I hope you are not having to deal with too many hard things and if you are i hope they get better soon. you are funny and pretty and those are very good things to be :)

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  21. I know a suffering for competition person. I find it ridiculous. Great post!!!

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  22. spot on post. i actually sometimes feel the opposite in blog land, like everyone is trying to put on a happy face like their lives are perfect. i've been stressed/upset about various things lately but never want to boo-hoo about it on my blog. it's good to remember everyone is going through their own thing and it isn't better/worse than anyone else's. love ya and hope things perk up :) (and my dogs will be annoyed with you for the extra forced hugs)
    -- jackie @ jade and oak

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  23. I love this. My aunt always says "your shit is your shit. doesn't make it any less important than anyone else's shit." Also, as a counselor, it's my JOB to listen to people's problems, so I would never ever want them to feel like i didn't think their problem was important.

    Remember - happiness is a constant journey, not a place you arrive at.

    xoxo

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  24. Hi! I'm your newest follower on bloglovin'! I love how real you are in this post and you're right... kindness and even a simple smile can go a long way. I hope you're doing alright and that whatever you're dealing with gets better and works out.
    I don't want to preach, hahaha, really I don't. But my mom always tells me that God knows we're strong enough to endure what comes in each of our lives paths... so you're strong and will get through whatever it is.

    -Liselda-
    wwww.havingfunmakingmemories.blogspot.com

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  25. Your on my list of peeps to hug today!!! I've lived all my life with the belief to be more kind than necessary. We never know each others darkest secrets, we haven't an idea of all their battles or their triggers and highs and low. All we always know is we each have feelings and we all need acceptance! Keep smiling beautiful!!!

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  26. You're incredible girlfriend. You more than deserve a hug!! Sending love and happy your way always!

    (also I may be visiting Dallas in September. Then I could REALLY hug you!!)

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  27. I love this, dear. Hugs to you. The quote about everyone fighting their own battle is so true. Imagine all the things people are agonizing over that we don't even have any idea about. We're here for you!

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  28. i love this!! i hope someone hugs you today!

    i am totally not a hugger but yes, sometimes even non huggers need hugs. lol.

    have a great day!

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  29. I will send you hugs every single day forever - probably someday in REAL life. Everyone has a story and each one is unique and different. Supporting one another is the best we can do. Well said my friend.

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  30. Great post. I really like "suffering is not a competition" - great quote. Hope you get a hug today!

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  31. Great honest post! Life is def. unfair sometimes and as much as this quote sucks, "everything happens for a reason". You are so right we all suffer from something and everyone tends to want to compete, that's sad. I hope you have a great week!

    I hope you get your hug today if not well here you go, XXOXOXOXOXOXOX.

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  32. Thank you for writing this Sarah! You hit the nail on the head... Suffering is never, ever, EVER a competition. Sending you lots of love today and wishing I could give you a REAL hug. ;)

    LOVE YOU!

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  33. Hey, hey you. All of you, I like that shit.
    I'd hug the Jack Daniels out of you if I could.
    And then I'd pour some Fireball down that throat of yours and we'd play beer pong until the sun comes up.*


    *This is an actual itinerary for when we do finally meet.

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  34. Good lessons, friend. We should all do better to remember that everyone has their own crosses to bear, whether we know about them or not.

    Also, I am not a big hugger (yeah, I'm weird) but I'll send hugs your way!

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  35. <3 When you are feeling down, just remember you are a Vol and that makes you awesome (;

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  36. You are exactly right! I tell my 8th grade students this ALL of the time. They are quick to feel sorry for themselves because they are not as happy or don't have the advantages that others have. I tell them that EVERYBODY is suffering in some way, some of us just hide it better than others. Kindness is just so important, because you NEVER know what someone else is dealing with!

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  37. Sending you a huge hug right now pretty lady! I love this post, so beautifully put. Everyone's situation is different and you never know what someone is going through so we really should just be nice to everyone. Keep your head up, smile that pretty smile!
    XOXO
    Lindsay

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  38. I honestly don't even know what to say. This post left me speechless and very, very thoughtful. This is beautiful and so true.

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  39. I completely agree, sometimes it is REALLY hard!

    xx
    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  40. This is such a powerful post, and it's so true! I think a lot of people get caught up in the idea that "this is only happening to me" and "what did I do to deserve this", and then forget that there are other hurts too. This post just sums it all up perfectly.

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  41. I'm giving you a big air hug girl! In hard times, I just blast some music and have a manic dance session in my bedroom. Music, dance and sweat make me happy in the most none kinky ways.

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  42. This is such a wonderful post. Thank you. :)

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  43. great post and so true! i hate it when people say, well i've suffered more because blah blah blah. we all have shit to deal with and our own way to deal with it and something that is universal is that noone ever gets sick of someone being kind! thanks for sharing!!

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  44. You're ahhh mazing, I had a girl on facebook tell all of us that we don't know pain because we still had our moms. I almost snapped but I let it go, because it was just her making an ignorant statement. I also felt that would give her the attention she was craving. People should understand that we all experience pain in different ways. Just because I still have my mother doesn't mean that my brother death was any less painful. Coming out the closet and your family disowns you or a husband walking away from a family, it's all the same hurt. We need more people with common sense in this world.

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  45. Such a good post! I totally needed this today, because I just posted about how I accidentally hit and killed a dog while coming home the other night, and how I can't seem to shake the guilt. Quite possibly one of the worst feelings I have ever felt...

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  46. Great post. Life isn't always fair and sometimes you feel alone but giving up is never an option. You re wrote this post fast. It's never going to feel the same as the original but it can be just as good. My blog post deleted last week. My re write felt awful!! I think I was just so angry. I didn't look at it for a few days and now I like it. Hugs!!

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  47. Great post! We're all a bit too quick to judge. You never know what someone is going through. We all go through hard times for different reasons or at different points and should support eachother!

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  48. I love this. So, so true and heartfelt. You are wonderful. I wish I could give you a hug. I know I could use one.

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  49. I'm late to the party on this one, but I love this. It's so true. We spend time with people every day at work, home, and playing and don't really know their struggles! Love love love this.

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  50. I needed this today. Blog land hugs all around!

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  51. Thank you for this reminder! I have been a grumpy, grouchy biotch the last couple of weeks & I need to snap out of it. Everyone is going through their own problems and we should be trying to help each other instead of snapping or being unpleasant!

    I love the "be kind" quote. It's one of my favorites!

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  52. such a good post!! thank you for that!

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  53. Well...I can't hug you right now for a few reasons, a)I don't know you that well (yet) and b)I'm far away. So, I will have to give you a verbal hug for right now.

    Sarah, I just thought you should know that you are a wonderful person and being kind DOES make you a GOOD person. I don't even know you irl but I can tell that you are, without a doubt, funny, smart, beautiful, and a great friend. Don't ever forget that you are those things. It is often hard to focus on the good about yourself and your life when the bad seems to outweigh it. But when you're feeling down or alone or sad or scared, try to remember that you are wonderful. And try to remember WHY you are wonderful.

    There will always be battles to fight. But things WILL get easier, and you know why? Because you are always becoming stronger; every day, every hour, every minute. You are becoming stronger.

    Just don't forget it!

    Enjoy Texas for me while I'm gone!

    Also, I am (regrettably) a no-reply blogger because I blog on a different platform. I know you hate that. But read this and feel the love anyway.

    -LesLeigh J.

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  54. You are such wonderful person. I don't know much about you but you are honest with the words that you put smiles on our faces. It's true that life is hard at some points, Everything happens in life. Good or bad.
    Sending you big big hugs, hope you can catch them.

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  55. Such a great point - we all have our struggles - but in those times I am oh so freaking thankful for the shoulders I do have to cry on.

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  56. Such a great, heartfelt post. Hugs to you! I know when I'm going through a hard time I immediately tend to think, "Pull your shit together, people have worse problems." But damnit, some days are hard and it's okay to be upset.

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  57. This was such a great post. Sending you lots of hugs and sunshine!

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  58. you're too pretty and funny and dog-loving to suffer.
    but i like your serious-face too.

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  59. Such a great post. I am sorry that you're struggling, but I'm happy you are open about it. That's one of the reasons I love your blog and read every day - you are so real. Well, not according to your most recent post...apparently your dog is the "real" you ;)

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  60. What a wonderful post....I read it at just the right time. I am a new reader. My name is Annie.

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  61. I came to this post through your post today reflecting the loss of Kidd Kraddick! This post is wonderful, so meaningful and true. Everyone experiences pain, suffering and hardship in different ways and it's always good to be sympathetic, thoughtful and understanding. This was a wonderful reminder and I love "suffering is not a competition"! Thank you for sharing!

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