Venus Trapped in Mars

27 January 2016

Stop and Smell The Roses


I am an emotional person. I mean, very emotional. Often times my emotions are out of control, and range from "will I ever laugh again?" to "ohhh shiny red ball, wait what was I just crying about?" Is this me being dramatic? The very last thing I would ever label myself is a drama queen, but when I put it that way it sure sounds like it. 

I just feel feelings so much... if that makes any sense at all. I'm kinda like the chick from Mean Girls....



I get so excited over silly weekend plans, that I can hardly wipe a smile off my face. I get so sad over car commercials where the dad sends his daughter off to college that I think I'll put Kleenex on a company wide backorder. I get so worked up worrying if someone is mad at me or if I've hurt someone's feelings that I'll send myself into full on panic. My emotions are all over the place, lord help us all if I ever have children. I get angry, jealous, sad, happy, elated, irate... all in the blink of an eye. 

I can't tell you how many times I've felt that I deserved something that I didn't get, and then gotten ridiculously worked up over the whole thing. The number of times that I felt angry or jealous that someone else was given an opportunity that I thought I was way more deserving of.  My first instinct is just to quit, throw my hands up in the air, cry woe is me and say screw this. Sheesh, maybe I am a drama queen! 

It's ok to be emotional over a let down, but the key is to not focus on the negative. When I actually take step back and think about the bigger picture, I find an explanation. Did I really work hard enough to deserve what was given to that other person? 

One thing my Dad always used to tell me was that I needed to work on was having thicker skin. This was solid advice for literally everything in life. As bloggers, we should also heed this advice. If something doesn't go your way, don't just sit there and pout in a jealous rage. Find out what you can work harder on, or how you can be more creative next time. 

If someone says something mean about you, maybe what they're saying is actually relevant and should be taken into consideration. When we let our emotions get the best of us, we can end up regretting how we handle the situation, I know I do. There have been many times I've been criticized, and instead of actually considering that that person has a highly valid point, I just want to label them as a bitch

Think about it, I bet most of us are not brave enough to give criticism to someone in a constructive way. I know I'm not. Instead, I'd rather just stay silent. There are a lot of people in my life who might have benefited if I had told them exactly what I thought, having nothing but good intentions to help them to be a better person or to get an opportunity they were working toward. 

We all ask for feedback, but then if the feedback isn't what we wanted to hear we get pissed off and defensive. If you can really take constructive criticism, you open the doors to being the best possible version of yourself. Two minds are better than one, right? 

My point here is that it's ok to be overly emotional, but don't let that initial emotional, knee-jerk reaction be how you ultimately handle the situation. Give yourself a minute, take a deep breath and really think if your reaction is warranted. 

And whatever you do, don't forget to take a moment to stop and smell the roses at the end of the day. Regardless of what someone else has, or what what someone else says to you... never forget or neglect the positives in your life. They won't stick around if you don't stop to appreciate them from time to time. 

These are my two goals for 2016: Don't let my emotions rule every reaction + stop and smell the roses. 

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13 comments :

  1. I would never peg you to be highly emotional. Me? I'm a trainwreck and my husband is constantly reminding me to relax and not let things get to me as much. I love HARD and when something happens that doesn't go as I think it should I get very emotional. This was a great reminder-thank you!

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  2. Love this post. I am VERY emotional as well. And also spend a lot of time worrying about people being mad at me (they aren't). Also, I've noticed the jealously thing a little more within myself too at this period in my life. There's something weird about the late 20s age...

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  3. but can we talk about Publix commercials? They make me cry every time. I can't deal. I also take everything like, super personally, except constructive criticism. I need you to say something like "you're doing a really great job at xyz, but have you ever considered trying abc? it might be easier/better/more efficient" I feel like the pro-con-con-pro method works best..

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  4. I am overly emotional too. Best quote to describe me is "It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply." I get upset and/or cry about every damn thing and I hate it!

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  5. YES TO ALL OF THIS! So overly emotional. & that includes sometimes just not giving a flying fig about anything either, being completely devoid of all emotions.

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  6. I also have a lot of feelings! And those feelings were at times extremely overwhelming during my pregnancy. Taking a deep breath is good advice, and I would add to go take a nap, if you can! Naps followed up with some hot tea or bubble bath always do wonders to straighten out my emotions.

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  7. Great goals, girl. I know I definitely could stand to "stop and smell the roses" every once in a while... it's so easy to get swept up in what I could/should be doing, instead of just taking a moment to be appreciative.

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  8. I love both of these ideas. It's funny because i always tell people to get over it. yet, i have a hard time getting over it myself. I needed to hear this today!

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  9. I've never read a post that was so relevant to my life. I am like this to a T. I find myself crying over the smallest things, it's ridiculous. I try to not let my emotions run my life, but I can't help it. It's just the way I am!

    Great post though! Sometimes, we do just need to stop and smell the roses.

    xoxo Lex // LexMeetsWorld

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  10. I am also an emotional person, in fact I can and do cry at many things and movies and tv shows and have Tim or one of my girls wanting to know why I am crying and all I can say is because of the show, movie, book or whatever.

    If I was to stop and smell the roses you can bet a bee would be in there and sting me on my nose, just saying

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  11. This post really speaks to me. I, too, am emotional and tend to react first with how I'm feeling instead of thinking things through. I'm working on that though.

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  12. Those are good goals to have. We all need to work on those.

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  13. Love this! I'm finding I'm a little more emotional and knee-jerk reactor than I'd like to admit. I have to "contain my crazy" from time to time, but I totally appreciate the idea of taking a step back and assessing if the criticism is accurate. That takes a lot of adulting to do ;) xoxo, ganeeban

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