Venus Trapped in Mars

24 November 2013

Tunics and Leggings

How long can one girl get away with Tunics and Leggings? Tunics, high-low shirts and long billowy tops are really cute. So many pretty, feminine styles to choose from. Oh who am I kidding, I love them because they COVER MY HUGE ASSet.

So tunic length shirts came back in style a few years ago, and now leggings are of course popular and look so chic. So, you are telling me that I can get away with stretch pants and a glorified night gown every day at work? Dear Fashion Gods, please don't let this trend go out of style because, until I lose this 26 year old baby weight, I will not have anything in my closet I am comfortable wearing to work.


I've always been so self conscious when it comes to my body, particularly my butt. I like to think that the long tunic covers up what I want no one to see, so when someone makes a comment about how I've got a Kardashian booty, I am oddly surprised.

But, how did you notice that? I am wearing a shirt that is three sizes too big and could double as a tent for the next time I try my hand at camping.

You'll never see me in tight clothing. I'm always dressing for around my body.

I think when you start a weight loss journey, it is important to set goals for yourself that aren't just about the number staring back at you when you step on the scale. So here are my non-scale victories I want to achieve:

1. I want to take a picture and not have to spend a minute and a half moving my head around so that my face is at a flattering angle for the camera. An angle I don't feel fat in.  

2. I don't want to make the photographer take my picture 47 different times

3. I don't want to have to crop my images so that my fat arm isn't in the picture when I post it

4. I want to feel confident wearing shorts


5. I want my boots to fit like this.... instead of the "zipper won't zip up all the way" fit I currently have.

6. I want to buy a pair of pants from Forever 21. Not because I particularly love their pants, but because they don't make pants big enough to fit my big booty, never have. 

7. I don't want to dread Summer.

8. I don't want to dread the beach.

9. I don't want to feel sad anymore when I look in my closet. I want to feel like there is a world of possibilities in that closet, rather than racks of clothes that look like crap on me.


So those are my non-scale victories I want to achieve. And I'm going to. We are going to!  
What are your non-scale goals? 








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33 comments :

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  2. I totally feel where you are coming from and am also going to start working my booty off and do something about it. I always feel that added motivation of something can help jump start a workout and lose weight routine and I think I have finally found what will work. Another blog I follow is doing a group weightloss thing too AND you can win extra money while doing it (nothing is more motivating that more moola!! It is through DietBet and I included the link to her post about it. If you are like me and really need that extra motivation then this might help. My competitiveness is going to kick into high gear come December 2.

    http://pumpsandiron.com/2013/11/18/win-money-for-losing-weight-with-the-pumps-iron-dietbet/

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  3. i want my boots to look like that too! it's just not fair...but i don't think my calves are ever gonna get any smaller :( it's like the one part of my body that actually has muscle and i just feel like they'll get bigger if anything bc ive been running!

    i love tunics + leggings too! haha

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  4. These goals could've come straight out of my head! But after 7 or so years of trying, I'm so exhausted... it seems like a pipe dream! I wish you better luck than me. But you look great in all of your blog photos as far as I can see!

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  5. Wow, it's like you're in my head...

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  6. the whole calves thing is def genetic- my friend is tiny and has huge calves but if there is a way to help with it then i'm all ears!!! i do like this- helps me get motivated for monday!

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  7. I think these are great goals to have, but I don't think all of the "problems" you have are that bad. Like if you just naturally have really muscular calves, your boots may never be loose like that, but don't get hung up on it. And I have no butt at all but forever 21 jeans do not look good on me. I wish you all the best in your weight loss journey, I just don't want you to get hung up on things you can't change when you still look great!

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  8. These are great goals! I dream of a day when I can find a pair of boots that fit my calves loosely. My wide calf boots are still quite snug, but I've finally accepted that I just have giant calves. I like to call them "athletic" to make myself feel better. :P

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  9. These are great goals and I agree completely that it can't just be all about a number. As someone who has lost a lot of weight, I can tell you that setting non-number related goals is one of the biggest motivators. I even used to buy a clothing item that was a size or two too small and hang it where I could see if every day as motivation to keep going!

    Jamie @
    The Growing Up Diaries

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  10. I have terrible claves - but it's genetic. My mom has long, slender (perfect) legs, but I unfortunately inherited my dad's short, thick ones. Most boots are anything but loose on my calves. These are some really great goals though! I especially love the one about the arm fat - I am always self conscious about that in pictures.

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  11. I've got muscular legs complete with big calves and a big booty! I used to hate it but I've come to love them over time. Especially since all that muscle comes from all my years as a dancer and swimmer. I've had someone identify me as a dancer just by looking at the size of my calves, haha. So, now I proudly flaunt those bad boys.

    Also, Levi's make "curvy" jeans that have extra room for the butt which is a life saver.

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  12. Oh Sarah, I can relate to this so much from the beginning of my weight loss journey. I can tell you are going to be dedicated to this and I can assure you, all of those thing happen when you least expect it and one day you are like woahhhh check me out! Looking forward to that day for you! :-)

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  13. I love this link up! And your blog! Number goals have never worked for me and being healthy and feeling good about your body is about SO much more than numbers.

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  14. So excited for this link-up! I feel this way about my legs. I'm soooo self-conscience about my legs I never even put shorts on this summer =( . It's probably not as bad as I'm picturing it in my head, but I hate feeling that self-conscience, and I've never been so self-conscience in my life! So I'm excited to turn it around and get rid of those saddle-bags! Ha!

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  15. I think these are solid goals girl. Weight loss isn't something I've ever struggled with, but I'm definitely out of shape at this point, and if I don't change my habits and lifestyle weigh tloss will definitely become a struggle at some point soon. I'm 28 after all lol this metabolism won't last forever.

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  16. I can't wear boots my calfs are far to fat........................lol
    Ok I could get a pair of boots that fit but they cost an arm and a leg so then I would only need on since I will on leg short of a pair.................lol

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    1. hahahahahaha!!!

      It seems way too many of us have this problem for companies not to make wider calf boots.

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  17. I have the same boot problem! but no matter how much smaller I get my calves just do not get any smaller. & of course NO cute boots come in wide calf.

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    1. The worst was when I went looking for cowboy boots. Sheesh, that was near impossible!

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  18. I've got HUGE boobs for someone who's never had an babies. My husband doesn't mind (OF COURSE) but they bother me so much! So I'm learning to focus on things I CAN change instead. Love this idea of non scale goals!

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  19. Since December of 2011 I have lost & kept off 35 pounds.

    When I first started on my weight loss journey I took a pretty drastic measure... but it taught me a lot. I re-learned food and developed a new relationship with it. I lost about 25 pounds the first round.

    In October of 2012 I got mono...yuck. And unlike many, who lose pounds due to a sore throat, I gained them, because lucky me, I didn't have a severe sore throat.

    I needed something to get back on track and rejuvenate my body. So I took a leap and I did a three day Blue Print Cleanse. That cleanse changed my life AGAIN. Since then I have lost another 10 pounds and kept off another 10 pounds. I feel better than I felt at my physical peak in high school and have found a love for running and pilates.

    I am not saying juice cleanses are for everyone, but it really helped me!

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  20. I wish I had MORE booty... it seems to be the only place I DON'T put on weight. Pancake fo' sho'.

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  21. Sarah- you are awesome and guess what? I wish I had a bigger butt and legs- those same boots that don't zip up on you are wayyy too big on me and don't fit me right either. I always say "the grass is greener", or at least that's what women think :) Oh and tunics and leggings are perfection, so keep it up!

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  22. 1) YOU CAN DO THIS!!

    2) i was never a girl who was able to find boots that zipped up easily - because of my giant calf muscles - and even today, i have lost all of my weight and then some, i still can't fit into hunter boots because of my calves. so whatever shape you have, love yourself!

    3) your genetics and body composition will determine how things fit. you seem tall in the pictures you post but who knows how things will be after you've lost the weight...you may have a tiny waist but a big booty and that's just the way you're built and that's ok! or you could be like me and be small yet have giant, muscular thighs that make finding the right pair of pants difficult to find. i also have a small waist but ginormous shoulders/broad back so i have a really hard time finding the right shirts. so back to #2, whatever shape you have, love it and embrace it :)\

    4) your best friend during this whole thing is EDUCATION - about proper nutrition, proper exercise and sticking to a routine. when you educate yourself about what it means to eat to lose weight (and you do have to EAT TO LOSE WEIGHT), how exercise works to burn fat and develop lean muscle and then stick to a routine to make clean eating and exercise part of your daily schedule - you will be 100% successful. because the more educated you are, the more you're aware of what you're putting in your body and how exercise is not only burning the fat/making you stronger but all the wonderful things they're doing INTERNALLY..things that we don't see and often forget about because we're so focused on the outside.

    5) BE PATIENT. it took me nearly a WHOLE YEAR to hit my goal but i worked at it, worked at getting healthy and did all the right things -- no crash diets, no starving, no pills or boosters. that shit doesn't work anyway. but i ate every 2hrs, was NEVER hungry (you should never be hungry during this time) and i worked out regularly. i kept telling myself that it didn't take me one night to gain all that weight therefore, it will not take me one night to lose it all either. oh, i also stayed away from the scale. that thing is a lying whore and is a horrible way to gauge progress. instead, go with measurements lost and how your clothes fit. the scale doesn't take into consideration one very important factor: muscle to fat ratio. in fact, toss that bitch away.

    i'm so excited for you and your journey! feel free to message me anytime if you have any questions.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  23. I love this! Non scale goals are so much better to hit! For me, the scale freaks me out, my number fluctuate so much, but I can totally tell if I am working out enough and if I am eating healthy by how my clothes fit and how I look in pictures. I cant wait to keep reading about your success!

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  24. Ha I have the same dream for my Hunter's fitting that way. Currently they're on a pedestal and I try them on once a week to see how many pencils I can squeeze in there along with dem calves. Kidding about the pencil part, but truly agree with most of your list. You can do it!!

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  25. I'm starting RushFit tomorrow morning. It is going to be a super challenge. But I can do it! I'll link up with my progress when I have something to report. A lot of your goals are precisely how I feel. I look forward to not have to wear my maternity baying suit to the pool anymore. !!

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  26. Glad to see I'm not the only girl who can't wear zip-up boots! For me personally, I have small feet & that's the problem-- I'm 5'6" but wear a size 6 1/2 shoe. Most girls my age/ height wear a much bigger size, and those zip up fine on me, but the foot part is too big. I think they make the calf of the boot "proportionate" to what the foot size is. And all of the "wide calf" boots at the stores are so ugly!

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  27. I love these goals! These are good, simple, but measurable ones! I feel ya on the booty too! Whew mine is outta control!

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  28. I love your goals! Totally attainable. I totally have the Kim K hourglass body no matter how small the scale gets so I totally hear ya!

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  29. Those are some great goals. All I can say is AMEN!

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  30. You go girl!!! I'm with you on all of those things. I don't care what the scale says, I just want to look and feel good! And be comfortable in the clothes I have! Also, the calf thing is a nightmare. I'm probably most confident about my legs, but they don't fit in any boots.... I've found a few pairs that are wide calf and work/look good, other wide calf boots look ridiculous! I could find a link to the cute ones I just bought if you'd like.

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  31. Hahaha I feel ya on the large ASSet! When I did promotional modeling back in the day, I used to call myseld the "Kim Kardashian" of the girls I worked with. I had curves and they were always stick thin! I have such a hard time finding a pair of pants because if it fits my rear end, its usually too big for my waist and I get that lame gap!

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